Author Profile
In my younger years, I served the needs of many companies on a Contract-for-hire basis. I worked with Large Companies and Small Companies. I worked with CEOs and Line-Labourers. I worked with Muslims, Jews, Christians, Buddhists, Agnostics, and Atheists. I worked with men and women, heterosexuals and homosexuals. I worked with Africans, Americans, Brazilians, Britons, Canadians, Chinese, Indians, Italians, Japanese, Mexicans, Romanians, and people from several other countries. I worked with Pessimists and Optimists. I have had long conversations with Pastors, Ministers, Priests, Deacons, Rabbis, Shamans, Monks, and Yogis.
The information within “STAR Personality Styles” works in each of these relationships.
As a Pastor, I have shared “STAR Personality Styles” information with individuals, couples, and small groups. I led special weekend spiritual-retreats with close to four hundred people from areas across Ontario and Quebec. “STAR Personality Styles” is based on principles from the Holy Bible, but don’t let the source of information turn you away. Almost everyone with whom I have shared the information directly (one-on-one, couples, or small groups) has reported back that they have benefited from the information contained in this book.
Why I wrote STAR Personality Styles
I use the term Personality Styles instead of the more common term Personality Profiles because “Profile” seems to compartmentalize you into a fixed and unchanging category or classification. Just as many musicians can play several different styles of music, it is possible for everyone to slip into an appropriate Personality Style to promote calm and harmonious Communication Styles and as a tool for Conflict Resolution. Everyone can master each Personality Style as a part of everyone’s development in Personal Growth and Self Esteem, and then use the appropriate Personality Style for any challenging situation.
I am not an Ordained Pastor, nor am I a Registered Psychotherapist; however, I know the Holy Bible very well. Many people (both Christian and Non-Christian) come to me (individually and as couples) to discuss their life and relationship challenges with me and ask me to find and explain Wisdom (Scripture) from the Holy Bible.
The Holy Bible is our User Manual for this journey that we call Life. The Holy Bible is the best resource for Personal Development, Communication Skills, Relationship Skills, and almost every other aspect of life. The Holy Bible also contains many Rules that can set the groundwork for Marriage Quality and Satisfaction. There is no Cure for Death, but your life can be very fulfilling and satisfying if you know how to navigate your Relationship with Self, Wife, Husband, Girlfriend, Boyfriend, Boss, Subordinate, Co-Worker, Government Agencies and Administrators, etc.
STAR Personality Styles cannot replace the Holy Spirit or a good Psychotherapist as a resource for navigating through conflicts or resolving challenging relationships; however, I recommend reading STAR Personality Styles Volume 1 & 2 as preparation before Marriage and during Marital Counselling. STAR Personality Styles can also help you to comprehend and identify Co-Dependency or Co-Dependent Relationships.
As an Independent Technical Consultant (as with any Consulting or Co-Working Relationship), it is very important that I quickly establish a great working relationship with my Client Team (Managers, Technical Staff, and Users). I have used the information in STAR Personality Styles to deal with All Workplace Relationships. As an Independent Technical Consultant, I needed to distinguish the RATS Individuals from the STAR Individuals in order to determine which Workplace Relationships required special attention. RATS Individuals always require special attention to avoid non-value-added and counter-productive Conflict Resolution. If you recognize the STAR or RATS Personality Style of the people that you work with, you can adapt your Communication Style to reflect the Personality Style of the individual that you are speaking with and thereby avoid miscommunication and conflicts due to message delivery.
When it comes to Relationships, there is no one-size-fits-all. Like clothing style, Relationships come in many different sizes, colours, and preferences. Unlike clothing styles and fashions, Relationships (and their associated challenges) have been an integral part of Self-Love, Sociology, Psychology, Society, Community, etc.
I have shared my knowledge of STAR Personality Styles with many individuals (on a one-to-one basis), couples, and small groups. Most of the feedback has been positive for improving relationships or satisfying in helping individuals better understand themselves and others. Many people who have benefited from the information have suggested that I record the information in a book to share the information more easily, more efficiently, and more quickly with more people. I pray that the information in “STAR Personality Styles” will positively impact your life and relationships.